Was I Sexually Coerced Quiz

This quiz helps you reflect on your intimate experiences, explore whether you may have been subjected to sexual coercion, and gain clarity on what healthy, consensual intimacy looks like. It is a tool for self-reflection only, not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

Please read each question carefully and select the answer that best reflects your personal experiences and feelings. This quiz is for self-reflection only and does not constitute a formal diagnosis, legal assessment, or professional judgment. If you find the questions distressing at any point, please pause and reach out to a qualified mental health professional or sexual violence support service.

1 / 18

1. Did someone pressure you into engaging in sexual activity even after you expressed hesitation or discomfort?

Never, I always felt fully willing and in control

Once or twice, but it felt minor and I brushed it off

Several times, I felt pressured but didn't know how to say no firmly

Frequently, I was repeatedly pressured to engage in sexual acts against my initial wishes

2. Did someone use emotional manipulation (e.g., guilt, threats of ending the relationship) to make you agree to sexual activity?

No, all sexual activity was based on mutual enthusiasm

Occasionally, someone hinted at being upset if I didn't comply, but it didn't feel like manipulation

Often, I was made to feel guilty or that I 'owed' them sexual attention to keep them happy

Constantly, I was emotionally manipulated into sexual activity I didn't want

3. Were you made to engage in sexual activity while under the influence of alcohol or drugs, when you couldn't give clear, informed consent?

No, I only engaged in sexual activity when sober and fully aware

Once, I was slightly impaired but still felt able to make my own choices

Multiple times, I was intoxicated and unable to clearly say no, and someone took advantage of that

Regularly, others intentionally encouraged me to get intoxicated to pressure me into sexual activity

4. Did someone ignore your verbal or non-verbal cues that you didn't want to engage in sexual activity?

Never, my boundaries were always respected

Rarely, someone missed a subtle cue but stopped immediately when I clarified

Often, my 'no' or uncomfortable body language was dismissed or minimized

Always, my refusal to engage in sexual activity was consistently ignored

5. Did someone use power or authority over you (e.g., employer, teacher, family member) to pressure you into sexual activity?

No, I never experienced pressure from someone in a position of power

Once, someone in authority made a suggestive comment but didn't push further

Several times, I felt pressured by someone with power to comply sexually to avoid negative consequences

Repeatedly, I was coerced into sexual activity by someone who used their power to control me

6. Did you agree to sexual activity out of fear of physical harm, retaliation, or other negative outcomes?

No, I only agreed when I truly wanted to

Once, I felt a little scared but it wasn't a serious threat

Multiple times, I agreed because I was afraid of what would happen if I said no

Consistently, I was forced to agree to sexual activity due to fear of harm or negative consequences

7. Did someone make you feel like you 'had to' engage in sexual activity to maintain their affection or approval?

No, affection was never tied to sexual activity

Sometimes, I felt like sex was expected but didn't feel obligated

Often, I believed I would lose their love if I didn't comply sexually

Always, my worth or their affection was conditional on sexual compliance

8. After engaging in sexual activity that felt unwanted, did the other person minimize your feelings (e.g., 'it's not a big deal', 'you overreact')?

Never, any discomfort I expressed was taken seriously

Rarely, someone downplayed it once but apologized afterward

Often, my feelings of discomfort were dismissed or invalidated

Always, I was made to feel like my distress was my fault or imaginary

9. Did someone rush you into sexual activity before you felt ready, without giving you time to process or consent fully?

No, I always had time to decide and felt no rush

Once, things moved fast but I still felt in control

Several times, I was pressured to act quickly and didn't have space to say no

Frequently, I was pressured into sexual activity before I was emotionally or physically ready

10. Did you ever engage in sexual activity because you didn't know how to leave the situation or say no?

No, I always felt confident in setting boundaries

Once, I felt unsure but managed to express my boundaries

Many times, I froze up or felt trapped and couldn't refuse

Almost always, I felt unable to escape or say no to unwanted sexual activity

11. Did someone use financial leverage (e.g., threatening to cut off support) to pressure you into sexual activity?

No, finances were never used as leverage for sex

Once, someone mentioned financial help would stop but didn't follow through

Several times, I was threatened with financial consequences if I didn't comply sexually

Regularly, I was financially coerced into sexual activity I didn't want

12. How did you feel during the sexual activity that felt unclear or unwanted?

Empowered and fully willing

Neutral, not excited but not upset either

Anxious, uncomfortable, or numb

Terrified, overwhelmed, or violated

13. Did the other person continue sexual activity even after you asked them to stop?

Never, they stopped immediately when I asked

Once, they hesitated but stopped after I repeated myself

Multiple times, they ignored my request to stop and kept going

Consistently, my requests to stop were disregarded

14. Did you feel like you had no choice but to engage in sexual activity with a specific person?

No, I always had a choice and felt free to decline

Sometimes, I felt pressured but still knew I could say no

Often, I believed I had no alternative but to comply

Always, I felt completely powerless to refuse

15. Have you experienced ongoing pressure to engage in sexual activity that you didn't consent to?

No, I have never faced ongoing pressure for unwanted sex

Occasionally, but it stopped after I set a boundary

Frequently, the pressure continued despite my objections

Constantly, I have been subjected to persistent, unwanted sexual pressure

16. Did your romantic or sexual partner repeatedly pressure you into sexual activity, even after you clearly stated you didn't want to?

Never, my partner always respected my refusal

Once, they pushed briefly but stopped when I reaffirmed my boundary

Multiple times, they repeatedly pressured me despite my clear refusal

Constantly, my partner made sexual activity a non-negotiable part of the relationship

17. Can you clearly tell the difference between enthusiastic, consensual sexual activity and activity you felt pressured into?

Yes, all my sexual experiences have been fully consensual and enthusiastic

Mostly, but there was one experience I felt unsure about

I'm often confused about whether my past sexual experiences were truly consensual

No, I can't distinguish between consensual sex and activity I was pressured into

18. Did someone share or threaten to share intimate photos/information about you to pressure you into sexual activity?

No, I never experienced this form of pressure

Once, someone made a vague threat but didn't follow through

Multiple times, I was blackmailed with intimate content to comply sexually

Constantly, this threat was used to force me into ongoing unwanted sexual activity