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Was I Sexually Abused Quiz: Sexual Abuse Self-Reflection Test

Explore whether past experiences may reflect coercion, consent violations, or other sexual abuse indicators with this trauma-informed self-reflection quiz.

Answer based on your real experiences, even if you still feel unsure how to label them. This quiz is for self-reflection only and does not provide a clinical diagnosis, legal determination, or treatment recommendation.

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1. When sexual touching, sexual talk, or intimate contact happened, how clear and voluntary did your consent usually feel?

It felt clearly voluntary, informed, and comfortable for me.
I sometimes went along with it even when I felt uncertain or hesitant.
I often felt pressured, cornered, or unable to say what I wanted.
It often happened without meaningful consent or when I could not freely agree.

2. If you said no, pulled away, froze, or seemed uncomfortable, how was that usually handled?

My boundaries were noticed and respected.
Sometimes they were respected, but not always right away.
My discomfort was often minimized, pushed past, or argued with.
My boundaries were ignored or treated as if they did not matter.

3. How often did the other person have more power than you, such as being older, trusted, admired, in authority, or important to your safety or belonging?

That was not part of the situation.
There was some imbalance, but I still felt able to choose freely.
The imbalance made it hard to disagree or feel fully safe.
The power difference strongly shaped what happened and limited my ability to refuse.

4. In dating, peer, or social situations, how often did you feel pushed to do sexual things to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or prevent rejection?

That does not really fit my experience.
It happened occasionally, but I usually still felt in control.
It happened enough that I often felt I had to manage someone else's expectations.
It was a strong pattern and I often felt I could not safely refuse.

5. Have any sexual experiences happened when you were asleep, intoxicated, frozen, very young, or otherwise unable to respond clearly?

No, that does not match my experiences.
Something like that may have happened once, but I am not fully sure.
Yes, there were situations where my ability to respond or understand felt limited.
Yes, this was a clear and important part of what happened.

6. How often did fear, freezing, numbness, or shutdown make it hard to resist or speak up in sexual situations?

That was not part of my experience.
It happened a little, but not in a major way.
It happened often enough that I felt unable to respond the way I wanted.
It was a strong pattern and left me feeling trapped or powerless.

7. Looking back, how often have you thought, "Maybe it was not okay, but I keep minimizing it or talking myself out of it"?

Rarely or never.
Sometimes.
Often.
Very often; I have repeatedly struggled to let myself name it honestly.

8. How much secrecy, grooming-like attention, or pressure to "keep this between us" was part of the experience?

None that I can identify.
A little, but it did not feel central.
There were noticeable patterns of secrecy, manipulation, or special treatment.
Secrecy, manipulation, or grooming-like behavior was a major part of it.

9. How strongly have you blamed yourself for what happened or felt responsible for not stopping it?

That has not been a major theme for me.
I have felt that way at times.
I have blamed myself often, even when part of me knows that may be unfair.
Self-blame has been intense and persistent.

10. When you think about childhood, adolescence, or dependence on a caregiver or trusted adult, how concerned do you feel about sexual boundary violations in that context?

I do not connect my past with that kind of concern.
I have a few uneasy memories or questions, but little clarity.
I have several memories, patterns, or reactions that make me genuinely concerned.
I feel strong concern that sexual boundary violations happened in that context.

11. How often do sexual or romantic situations bring up discomfort, body tension, panic, disgust, or a need to disconnect?

Rarely or never.
Occasionally.
Often enough that it affects how I handle intimacy.
Very often; it strongly affects my sense of safety or closeness.

12. After certain experiences, how often did you feel ashamed, dirty, sick, or emotionally overwhelmed even if others acted like it was normal?

That does not really fit my experience.
It happened sometimes.
It happened often and stayed with me.
It was intense, repeated, or deeply disruptive.

13. How often did someone use affection, gifts, protection, attention, or emotional dependence to cross sexual boundaries with you?

That does not match my experience.
There may have been a mild version of that dynamic.
Yes, that kind of manipulation or leverage was present.
Yes, it was a strong pattern that shaped the whole situation.

14. If you tried to create distance, how often did sexual comments, touching, requests, or pressure continue anyway?

That was not part of my experience.
It happened once or twice, but not as a repeated pattern.
It happened repeatedly enough to feel violating.
It was persistent and made me feel that distance or refusal would not be respected.

15. How much confusion, blur, or missing detail do you have around experiences that now feel sexually unsafe or troubling?

Very little; this is not a meaningful theme for me.
Some, but only in limited ways.
A noticeable amount; some memories feel unclear or hard to organize.
A lot; confusion or memory gaps make the experience especially hard to understand.

16. How much were you taught, expected, or pressured to prioritize obedience, pleasing others, or not making sexual situations "difficult"?

That was not a meaningful pattern for me.
A little.
Enough that it affected my ability to notice or express boundaries.
A great deal; it strongly shaped how powerless or responsible I felt.

17. How often do you avoid certain people, places, conversations, media, or kinds of intimacy because they bring up distress or unease?

Rarely or never.
Sometimes.
Often.
Very often; avoidance has become an important coping pattern for me.

18. How much have these experiences affected your sense that your body, comfort, and boundaries deserve protection?

Very little or not at all.
Somewhat.
Quite a bit; they have made self-protection and trust harder.
Deeply; they have strongly shaped how I see safety, boundaries, or my own worth.

19. Overall, when you look at the pattern rather than a single event, how likely does it feel that some experiences crossed sexual boundaries in harmful or abusive ways?

That does not seem likely to me.
It feels somewhat possible, but unclear.
It feels likely that some experiences were harmful or coercive.
It feels very likely that serious sexual boundary violations or abuse occurred.
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