Am I Asexual? The Complete Asexuality Spectrum Quiz

If you find yourself wondering 'am I asexual?', this comprehensive asexuality spectrum test is designed for you. Sexual orientation is complex, and this quiz will help you explore your feelings towards sexual attraction, intimacy, and relationships.

How to know if you are asexual? Start by taking this quiz. Read each question carefully and select the answer that best reflects your life experiences. This asexual test is a thorough self-assessment tool to help you understand where you might fall on the spectrum.

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1. How often do you experience sexual attraction to other people?

Frequently, it's a regular part of my life.

Only under specific conditions or after a strong emotional bond is formed.

Very rarely, maybe only a few times in my life.

Never. I don't look at people and feel a desire to have sex with them.

2. When you see someone who is conventionally highly attractive, what is your typical reaction?

I often feel sexually aroused or think about being intimate with them.

I feel drawn to them, but mostly I just want to get to know them deeply.

I appreciate their beauty like a nice painting, but without any physical desire.

I acknowledge they look nice, but I don't understand why people feel 'turned on' by strangers.

3. How do you feel about sex scenes in movies, TV shows, or books?

I enjoy them and find them arousing or essential to the plot.

They are okay, but I prefer emotional buildup and romance.

I find them unnecessary or boring. I usually just wait for the scene to end.

I find them uncomfortable, awkward, or repulsive.

4. When your friends or peers discuss their sexual experiences or desires, how do you relate?

I completely understand and often join in with my own stories.

I understand the feelings, but I don't experience them as intensely or frequently.

I feel like I'm studying an alien culture. I just don't get the hype.

I feel extremely alienated, uncomfortable, or pretend to understand to fit in.

5. What are your thoughts on having partnered sexual intercourse?

It is highly important to me and a necessity in a relationship.

I'm open to it if I'm deeply in love, but it's not the most important thing.

I'm indifferent. I could live with or without it (sex-indifferent).

I have no desire for it, or the thought actively repulses me (sex-repulsed).

6. Do you feel there is a difference between romantic attraction (wanting to date someone) and sexual attraction?

No, for me they are usually the exact same feeling.

Sometimes. I can have a crush without wanting sex immediately.

Yes, I often want romantic relationships completely separate from sexual intimacy.

Yes, the concepts are entirely separated in my mind. I may want romance but never sex.

7. How do you view your own libido (sex drive) in relation to other people?

My libido is directed at specific people I find attractive.

My libido only activates when I feel a deep romantic connection.

I have a physical libido (like feeling hungry), but it's not directed at anyone in particular.

I experience little to no libido at all.

8. Have you ever felt 'broken' or pressured because you didn't share the same sexual interests as your peers?

No, my sexual development felt pretty standard compared to society.

Occasionally, mainly because I take longer to feel attraction.

Often. I've frequently wondered why I don't feel what everyone else is feeling.

Constantly. I've often faked attraction just to meet societal expectations.

9. If you were to imagine your ideal long-term partnership, what role does sex play?

A vital and regular component of our intimacy.

A secondary component that happens occasionally when we feel closely bonded.

Rarely happens, or is only done as a compromise for a partner.

Completely absent. Our bond is built entirely on emotional, intellectual, or platonic intimacy.

10. How do you define a 'crush' when you have one?

I want to date them and be physically/sexually intimate with them.

I want to be their exclusive partner, and maybe sexual desire will follow later.

I just want to be around them, hug them, and share my life with them emotionally.

I just want to be their best friend (often called a 'squish' in the ace community).

11. When interacting with someone you really like, what physical contact do you desire most?

Sexual intimacy and passionate kissing.

Cuddling, hand-holding, and perhaps more if the mood is right.

Strictly non-sexual affection like hugs or leaning on each other.

I prefer verbal and emotional connection over physical touch.

12. Have you ever experienced 'aesthetic attraction' (finding someone beautiful) and mistaken it for sexual attraction?

No, if I find someone extremely beautiful, I usually feel some sexual draw.

Sometimes, until I realize I just want to look at them, not touch them.

Often. It took me a while to realize that thinking someone is pretty doesn't mean I want sex with them.

Yes, all the time. Realizing this difference was a huge lightbulb moment for me.

13. If you masturbate or have sexual fantasies, what do they usually involve?

Myself and specific people I know or find attractive in real life.

Myself and a partner, but only if we have a deep emotional connection.

Fictional characters, abstract concepts, or viewing it from a third-person perspective.

I do not masturbate or have sexual fantasies at all.

14. How do you react when someone flirts with you in a distinctly sexual way?

I find it flattering and often flirt back if I'm interested.

I feel a bit overwhelmed but might warm up to it eventually.

I find it confusing, awkward, or I completely miss the hint.

I feel extremely uncomfortable, repulsed, or want to leave the situation immediately.

15. How do you feel about French kissing (making out)?

I love it, it's a great lead-up to sexual intimacy.

I enjoy it if I have strong feelings for the person.

I tolerate it or feel completely neutral about it.

I find it gross, unappealing, or actively avoid it.

16. If a partner told you they never wanted to have sex again, how would you react?

That would be a complete dealbreaker for me.

It would be very difficult, but maybe we could work through it.

I wouldn't mind much, as long as we still had romantic intimacy.

I would be incredibly relieved or overjoyed.

17. Have you ever tried to force yourself to feel sexual attraction?

No, it has always come naturally to me.

Only when I was trying to figure out if I liked someone.

Yes, I've tried to 'practice' feeling it because I thought I should.

Constantly. I spent years trying to force myself to be 'normal' before learning about the asexual spectrum.

18. When using dating apps or navigating the dating scene, what is your biggest frustration?

Finding someone who matches my personality and lifestyle.

People rushing into physical intimacy before I'm emotionally ready.

The constant expectation that dating must inevitably lead to sex.

The entire concept. I wish there was an app just for deep, non-sexual partnerships.

19. How do you feel about seeing a partner naked?

It strongly turns me on and makes me desire them.

I enjoy the vulnerability it represents.

It's aesthetically pleasing, like a statue, but not sexually arousing.

I feel indifferent or uncomfortable; I'd rather they stay clothed.

20. Does the idea of a 'Queerplatonic Relationship' (a highly committed partnership deeper than friendship but without romantic/sexual expectations) appeal to you?

Not really, I prefer traditional romantic and sexual relationships.

It sounds interesting, but I'd still want some romance.

Yes, this sounds like a very appealing alternative to traditional dating.

Absolutely. This is exactly what I have been looking for my whole life.

21. Have you ever engaged in sexual activity simply to please a partner, rather than out of your own desire?

Rarely. I usually only do it when I also desire it.

Sometimes, but usually I end up enjoying it once it starts.

Often. It feels like a chore or a compromise to maintain the relationship.

I have, and it made me feel miserable, or I refuse to do it entirely.

22. When a friend points to a stranger and says 'They are so hot', what is your internal reaction?

I usually look and agree, feeling a similar physical draw.

I might agree they look nice, but I don't feel the 'heat' my friend feels.

I pretend to agree so I don't seem weird, but I don't feel anything.

I have absolutely no idea what 'hot' feels like. It's an alien concept.

23. How do you feel when people say 'sex is what makes us human' or 'sex is a basic human need'?

I completely agree, it's a fundamental part of life.

I think it's important for most, but maybe not for everyone.

I find it highly inaccurate and reductive of human experience.

It makes me feel invalidated, broken, or angry because it excludes me.

24. If there was a magic pill that could instantly make you experience typical sexual attraction, would you take it?

I already experience it, so I wouldn't need it.

Maybe, if it made dating and relationships easier.

Probably not. I've learned to be okay with how I am.

Absolutely not. My lack of sexual attraction is a core, valid part of who I am.

25. When you think about the label 'Asexual', how does it make you feel?

It definitely doesn't describe me.

I'm unsure, maybe pieces of it apply to me.

It feels validating, like I'm finally finding a vocabulary for my experiences.

It brings a massive sense of relief and profound understanding of my life.