【Lesbian Women】Am I a Top or Bottom? Sexual Role Preference Quiz

This quiz helps lesbian and queer women explore their preferences in intimate relationships with other women and better understand their natural inclinations.

Please select the option that best reflects your true feelings and experiences. This quiz is for self-exploration only and not a definitive label.

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1. In intimate situations with a woman, you naturally tend to:

Take charge and lead the experience

Initiate sometimes but also enjoy following

Prefer your partner to take the lead

Feel uncomfortable with the concept of leadership roles

2. When imagining your ideal intimate encounter with a woman, you see yourself as:

The one guiding and controlling the pace

An equal participant with shared control

Being guided and cared for by your partner

Focusing more on emotional connection than roles

3. How do you feel about being the one who initiates intimacy with a female partner?

Very comfortable and natural

Comfortable when the mood feels right

Prefer when your partner initiates

Rarely think about initiation dynamics

4. During intimate moments with a woman, you feel most empowered when:

You're directing the action

There's a balanced exchange of energy

You're receiving focused attention

The connection feels genuine and mutual

5. In a same-sex relationship, your preferred intimate dynamic tends to be:

More active/dominant roles

Varied roles that allow both partners to lead and follow

More receptive/passive roles

Dynamics that feel comfortable regardless of labels

6. When it comes to making decisions in the bedroom with a female partner, you:

Prefer to be the decision-maker

Enjoy shared decision-making

Feel more comfortable when your partner decides

Don't think about decisions in those terms

7. How do you feel about taking control during intimacy with a woman?

It's exciting and comes naturally

Enjoyable in moderation

Prefer to relinquish control

Control dynamics aren't important to me

8. Your fantasy scenarios with women typically involve:

You being in charge and dominant

Equal power dynamics

Being pursued and cared for

Emotional intimacy rather than power dynamics

9. When your female partner follows your lead, you feel:

Empowered and satisfied

Comfortable and connected

Somewhat pressured or uncomfortable

No particular feeling about leadership

10. In your ideal lesbian relationship dynamic, power is:

Something you naturally hold more of

Evenly shared between partners

Something you prefer your partner to hold

Not a factor you consider important

11. How do you feel about being the more experienced partner with women?

Very comfortable and confident

Comfortable when it feels natural

Prefer when your partner is more experienced

Experience levels don't matter to me

12. During intimate moments with a woman, you're most aware of:

Your partner's responses to your actions

The mutual exchange of pleasure

Your own responses to your partner's actions

The emotional connection between you

13. When trying new things intimately with a female partner, you prefer to:

Be the one introducing them

Discover them together

Have your partner introduce them

Let things evolve naturally without planning

14. Your communication style during intimacy with women is typically:

Directive and guiding

Collaborative and responsive

Receptive and responsive

Intuitive rather than verbal

15. How important are clear roles to your intimate satisfaction with women?

Very important - roles help me feel comfortable

Somewhat important but flexible

Not very important - prefer fluidity

Roles feel restrictive to genuine connection

16. When you imagine giving pleasure to a woman, you feel:

Powerful and in control

Connected and mutual

More comfortable receiving pleasure

Pleasure should be shared without distinction

17. Your natural energy in intimate settings with women tends to be:

Active and initiating

Balanced between giving and receiving

Receptive and responsive

Varies greatly depending on the connection

18. How do you feel about the terms 'top' and 'bottom' in lesbian relationships?

They accurately describe my preferences

They're somewhat useful but limiting

They don't resonate with my experience

I prefer not to use labels for intimacy

19. In past relationships with women, partners have typically described you as:

The more dominant or leading partner

An equal participant

The more receptive or following partner

Someone who defies simple categorization

20. Ultimately, in lesbian intimacy, you believe roles should be:

Clear and consistent for best experience

Flexible and adaptable to the situation

Fluid and not predefined

Irrelevant to genuine intimacy