【Gay Men】Am I a Top or Bottom? Sexual Role Preference Quiz

This quiz helps gay and queer men explore their natural inclinations and preferences in intimate relationships with other men.

Please select the option that best reflects your true feelings and experiences. This is for self-exploration only.

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1. In intimate situations with a man, your natural instinct is to:

Take control and lead the experience

Initiate sometimes but also enjoy following

Prefer your partner to take the lead

Focus on mutual connection rather than roles

2. When it comes to physical positioning during intimacy with men, you feel most comfortable when:

You're in the more dominant/active position

Positions vary and change naturally

You're in the more receptive position

The position feels emotionally right regardless of role

3. How do you feel about being the one who sets the pace during intimacy with a male partner?

Very comfortable - it feels natural

Comfortable when it feels appropriate

Prefer when your partner controls the pace

Pace should emerge naturally from the connection

4. When imagining your ideal intimate encounter with a man, the energy dynamic feels:

You directing and guiding the experience

Balanced with both partners taking turns leading

Your partner taking more control

Completely mutual without clear leadership

5. Your approach to trying new things in the bedroom with a man is:

You typically introduce new ideas

Sometimes you suggest, sometimes your partner does

You prefer when your partner suggests new things

New experiences emerge naturally from the moment

6. How do you feel about vulnerability during intimacy with men?

Comfortable being vulnerable in controlled ways

Equally comfortable with giving and receiving vulnerability

More comfortable when your partner is vulnerable

Vulnerability is essential regardless of role

7. When it comes to physical interaction between men, you:

Enjoy taking a more active, guiding role

Balance active and receptive roles

Prefer when your partner takes more active control

Physical dynamics aren't relevant to intimacy for you

8. Your fantasy scenarios with men typically involve you as:

The one pursuing and taking charge

Sometimes pursuing, sometimes being pursued

The one being pursued and desired

An equal partner without clear pursuit dynamics

9. How important is it for you to feel in control during intimacy with men?

Very important - it's essential for my satisfaction

Somewhat important but not always necessary

Not important - I prefer other dynamics

The concept of control doesn't resonate with me

10. When your male partner follows your lead during intimacy, you feel:

Powerful, confident, and satisfied

Comfortable and connected

Somewhat uncomfortable or pressured

No particular feeling about leadership dynamics

11. Your communication style during intimate moments with men tends to be:

Directive and guiding

Collaborative and responsive

Receptive and responsive to guidance

Intuitive and focused on connection

12. How do you feel about traditional masc/fem dynamics in gay relationships?

They feel natural and comfortable to me

Some aspects fit, others don't

I prefer to challenge traditional dynamics

Such dynamics are irrelevant to my relationships

13. When giving pleasure to a male partner, you feel:

Powerful and in control of their experience

Connected and mutually satisfied

More comfortable receiving pleasure

Pleasure should be shared without distinction

14. Your ideal gay relationship dynamic involves:

Clear roles with you as the more active partner

Flexible roles that change based on situation

Your partner taking more initiative

Complete equality without assigned roles

15. How do you respond to assertive male partners?

I enjoy the challenge and respond assertively

It depends on my mood and the situation

I find it attractive and respond receptively

Assertiveness isn't a factor I focus on

16. In past intimate relationships with men, partners have described you as:

Confident, dominant, and in charge

Adaptable and versatile in different roles

Receptive, responsive, and guided

Someone who defies simple categorization

17. Your comfort level with receiving explicit guidance during intimacy with men is:

Low - I prefer to be the one guiding

Moderate - it depends on the context

High - I appreciate clear direction

Guidance emerges naturally from mutual understanding

18. How do you feel about the terms 'top' and 'bottom' in gay culture?

They accurately describe my natural inclinations

They're somewhat useful but don't capture everything

They don't fully resonate with my experience

I prefer not to use labels for intimate preferences

19. When it comes to emotional intimacy with men, you:

Prefer to be the strong, supportive one

Balance giving and receiving emotional support

Appreciate when your partner provides emotional strength

See emotional intimacy as separate from physical roles

20. Ultimately, in gay relationships, you believe satisfying intimacy comes from:

Clear understanding of each partner's role

Flexibility and willingness to adapt

Letting natural preferences guide the experience

Genuine connection beyond predefined roles